Postnatal Coach & Partner

You are not a bad mother. I can show you how to turn this around and start to feel like you again while building an unshakable bond with your baby. I’m here for you.

Have you had a difficult journey to conceive, earlier losses, a difficult pregnancy or labour? Are you struggling to adapt to motherhood or just feel like something’s not quite right? These experiences can have a huge impact on mental health. Support where you feel heard, safe to share your thoughts and fears is crucial. This will help you move from a place of anxiety, guilt and sense of loss to a place where you’re calmer, courageous and ready for whatever comes next.

If you’ve suffered a loss at any stage of pregnancy, including failed IVF attempts, do you fear that you’ll lose your new baby too? Nervous to look over the cot, or a deep sense that something bad will happen? This is no way to live. You don’t really want to be that person. It doesn’t need to be like this and I’ll guide you to a better, more comfortable, happier place. 

Sometimes there can be times when you just feel completely overwhelmed and panicked. Hearing your own baby cry is different than anything else you’ve ever experienced. When it’s difficult to soothe them, the panic in you rises. When this happens the baby senses it too and they cry even harder. It can be a vicious circle. Unless there’s a medical reason, you do have the power to break the cycle but many of us haven’t been taught how. By knowing how to effectively manage our thoughts and emotions as they arise their weight lessens, and they lose their power – and we gain it! By knowing how to tame the emotions when they spike, we take back control, instead of them controlling us.

Being a parent will bring anxiety and you’ll be faced with the unknown. There may be times you feel out of depth. Handling those unknown situations differently can make a huge impact. Redefining and quieting negative thoughts at the root of the anxiety is the basis. Because we weren’t taught how to do this the thoughts run deeper than they seem. By addressing those, the doubting self-talk will be a thing of the past. This will have a fundamental impact on how you parent and how your children grow up. And it will teach them to manage their own anxiety levels too. This is an incredible gift for you and your whole family.

When you’re faced with intrusive thoughts that something bad will happen or that you’ll lose your baby, it can send you in to a whirlwind. The playfulness you thought you’d have has been replaced by a sense of fear. This isn’t who you are, it’s a product of your pain and experience. By reshaping your thoughts and thinking patterns the fear isn’t there anymore. The decision of what to control comes from a place of fact, not fear. You can start to have fun again. You’ll get back your playfulness and be able to enjoy this precious time.

Relationship dynamics change when a new baby comes along. You don’t have the same head space anymore. Together we’ll work though this to ensure the bond you have with yourself, baby and partner remains strong and continues to grow. This is a crucial foundation that will be so important in the coming years. Building that base now is vital.  I’m here to support you through this. To give you back the confidence that you had before, so that you can all enjoy this new stage of life.

When you are heard and have coping strategies that are right for you and your life you feel empowered. You feel able to manage. You feel excited for the day ahead and you’re able to enjoy the small moments that make the big moments that make the memories.

I’m here to support you to help you build a community that can look after you in this crucial time. I work with a range of techniques for deep lasting change and impact. You’ll also have the tools that you can use yourself. Strategies that really work. They will become a part of your life, and your family’s. As a result, you’ll feel happier, calmer, more content and confident in your skills as a mother and where you’re heading. You’ll stand tall and will see yourself as the parent you really want to be. You’ll feel more relaxed and able to enjoy this experience.

Until now it’s likely you’ve had lots of medical support. It may be that family were around to help in the first few weeks post birth. When they’ve gone and the medical appointments become less the sense of loneliness can really set in. I’m here to support you through that time. The loneliness will go and be replaced with happiness and confidence that you’re doing the right thing. You’ll be emotionally healthier and able to acknowledge where you are now and where you want to be. You will have a deep trust that everything will be ok and you can enjoy this time. You’ll feel less worried about the “what ifs” and most importantly you’ll feel a deep connection to your baby and to those that are important to you.

For those in London, I offer free onsite childcare services. So, you’re able to come and have a session and your baby can either stay with you, or be looked after on site with toys that are clean, safe and age appropriate. Book a call to find out more about this option.

I’m here for you. This is such an important time for you and your baby and your whole family. Let’s make sure it’s great. This is your time